Adventures of a Kidney Donor

February 18, 2012

The Kidney… My Kidney

Filed under: Psychology — by anne315 @ 9:29 pm
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Recently I was talking with some organ recipients about the complicated psychology of organ donation and receiving.  We talked about possible feelings of guilt when you know someone has died and you have gotten an organ. It is sad but of course the recipient didn’t cause the death. Also, the family must get some comfort knowing that their loved one has saved the life of someone else.

I say this all of the time, but I think it must be more difficult to be a recipient than a donor. It must be hard to be in the position of having to receive rather than give, in addition to coping with the health condition that makes you need an organ in the first place.

One of the most interesting parts of the discussion was how recipients refer to the organ they have gotten. Some people even name the organ. One recipient said: “When I first got my heart I would say ‘the heart.’ After a few months my friends started noticing that I was saying ‘my heart.’ The change was unconscious.” This got me to thinking about “my kidney” out there, now residing in the recipient. I wasn’t aware of it until that discussion, but I stopped thinking of it as “my kidney” as soon as I no longer had it. To me it is “the kidney” but more importantly, I hope the recipient is now saying “my kidney.”

The kidney walks are starting to gear up. Please give to one or participate in a walk in your area.

Go to List of Resources on Kidney Donation


  1. I agree. It is impressed on us to be strong. To solve our own problems. To live within our means. To compete and win.
    Its okay to ask for help if you must. Just not too much. Don’t ask for too much.
    I cannot imagine the strength it must take to ask for an organ. To let the world know that you are in need. To have the asking go on for years.
    But I think that supreme act of giving should give strength to recipients.

    Comment by chuckles — February 19, 2012 @ 2:13 am |Reply

  2. To finish my last comment (had wifi trouble):
    I hope recipients take strength from the unconditional giving, the positive energy and love that is put out there by donors.
    I think a path to enlightenment is lit for all of us by the strength to endure and the love that both groups put out here in the world.
    There are deep lessons that I have learned from both groups: to live each day “paying it forward”, emphasizing hope, and showing love to all 8look can

    Comment by chuckles — February 19, 2012 @ 12:36 pm |Reply

  3. Great comments anne315. Thank you for sharing these. This is a very emotional issue for all concerned. Joan

    Comment by Joan — February 19, 2012 @ 1:44 pm |Reply

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